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I wasn't really allowed to date in high school or middle school. A lot of religious families won't let their daughters date but are freer with sons, but not always. I'm sorry I didn't make the distinction between religious families and nonreligious ones. I see a lot of religious girls on btees and kpop videos and it's mind-blowing.
I am from a fairly conservative family I am not allowed to date and neither is my brother and I am fine with it because a lot of men here manipulate naive girls into marrying them but then they turn out to be A-holes who leave the girl helpless and scarred once they find a new lover. There are a lot of predators here and sometimes arranged marriage does end up being the safer option for girls. many of my friends are into kpop and kdramas it's normalized now even before kpop was popular girls would fawn over local male actors and musicians all the time.
 

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Seriously. I wouldn't pay them any mind. Taek00kers are mad because Tae was hanging out with a nonbinary model who posted a picture of their knees the next day. They actually reached out for confirmation of their ship. Is Jk anywhere near Tae now that they're not forced to be around each other? That's all they need to know. The company, Bang, SK, Knetz, and Armys didn't stop him from having fun.
A huge chunk of the fans are shippers and they are usually the most obsessed analysing and follwing everything to see if their ship is true. I myself only got interested in Bt$ because of the ships, like literally. It was during a period of my life where things were tough and I needed distraction. Never liked the music and before this i had listened to kpop songs casually. Once they wake up from their delusions they will get bored and leave. Even if something did happen between the ship how can they look at teapot or Jimbo and think that those dudes are remotely faithful to anything? Bruuh…Teapot in the arms of a new man every time.
 
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That exists too unfortunately, even to this day, but generally speaking it is definitely not the norm. Extremely conservative families from certain areas/ cultures may do it. More common in some countries than others. Certain arab countries are much more tribal and conservative (this is the people not just the govenments) as well some areas of eg. Pakistan and East Africa. Religious girls may be attracted to kpop because on first glance it appears more safe and less vulgar than western enterntainment. But the reality is very different as we know.
The reality is a lot different. I thought it was wholesome fun but it's worse than American pop in some cases. The way companies openly treat idols wouldn't be allowed here.

I had a Pakistani friend and her family was very conservative. My Indian friends had families that were cool but boys were off limits. I think it gets better with time. Some conservative Christians won't allow their daughters to date and arrange their marriage but it's not that well-known. Thank you for taking the time to explain things to me.
 
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Hi again - respectfully. I have lived in India. And the Hindu girls date freely. It's not just the westernized ones. Arranged marriages are still pretty popular, but it's usually only when the girl and guy actually like each other. The families spend a lot of time together and ultimately let the couple decide if they want to tie the knot. The result is that it's not just two people in love spending their lives together, but two families who get along and enjoy spending time with each other. Now with muslims, it's different. They are not allowed to date.
I like that things are changing. It's so different from how my friends or their parents grew up. I like the Hindu approach to marriage. The families have to get along because they're becoming a larger family. It's about both families being compatible. Thank you for explaining things to me.
 
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yes, I agree. These crazy stans are completely brainwashed into worshipping their precious oppas to the extent that they ignore and try to justify problematic and unacceptable behaviour. I'd like to believe they are just a vocal minority because there are plenty of sane fans who enjoy the music and groups while retaining objectivity and not worshipping them like gods. I guess everything has the potential to brainwash and indoctrinate people, be it religion or popular culture.
Kpop reminds me of the youth movements that took over children's minds in the late 1800-1940s. Those kids grew up and because of their childhood indoctrination went along with horrible things. The youth movements of the 60s went sideways too. Someone is trying to harness the youth again but why? What do they want? We know what's behind the music and companies and it's about more than the money.
 

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The reality is a lot different. I thought it was wholesome fun but it's worse than American pop in some cases. The way companies openly treat idols wouldn't be allowed here.

I had a Pakistani friend and her family was very conservative. My Indian friends had families that were cool but boys were off limits. I think it gets better with time. Some conservative Christians won't allow their daughters to date and arrange their marriage but it's not that well-known. Thank you for taking the time to explain things to me.
Yeah the families may be against it but that does not mean they are not doing it is what i was actually trying try to say. Getting honor killed or married off to an old man after getting caught is not the norm though. Honor culture is cancer and has more to do with stupid cultural beliefs rather than religion. Like dating is a sin but killing someone is not?! Same goes for female genital mutilation of breast ironing which happens in both Christian and Muslim African countries.
 
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I encountered some of the Karens lol. Karens with grandchildren posting under every picture about how they wanted to suck their cocks and bullying anyone being even slightly critical.
Ewwww someone get Grandma. That's disgusting. I refuse to believe that's not staff. Have seen people promote incest fanfic and were moms. A lot of people have two accounts. One sfw and the other with incest cow porn.
 
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Yeah the families may be against it but thatdoes not mean they are not doing it is what i was actually going ot try to say. Getting honor killed or married off to an old man after getting caught is not the norm though. Honor culture is cancer and has more to do with stupid cultural eliefs rather than relgion. Like dating is focrbidden ut killing someone is not?!
This! I never understood it. We have toxic religions here, but it's in out of the way places and rural areas. Girls were pushed into marrying 80-90 year old fundamentalist men at 12-13. It took a lot of years before anyone tried to stop it. The groups controlled the local economy, government and victims were too scared to speak. There's states with legalized child marriage. We have a lot of skeletons in our closets and fundamentalists want to return to those times.
 
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A huge chunk of the fans are shippers and they are usually the most obsessed analysing and follwing everything to see if their ship is true. I myself only got interested in Bt$ because of the ships, like literally. It was during a period of my life where things were tough and I needed distraction. Never liked the music and before this i had listened to kpop songs casually. Once they wake up from their delusions they will get bored and leave. Even if something did happen between the ship how can they look at teapot or Jimbo and think that those dudes are remotely faithful to anything? Bruuh…Teapot in the arms of a new man every time.
Tae's in any man's arms who has some money. His sexuality is moneysexual. Willing to pay? He will be sexual. I got into shipping taek00k and look back with embarrassment. They barely talk and videos are manipulated to look like more is happening. It's fake. Army could have boyfriends or girlfriends, friends, careers etc and spend time going over videos looking for proof.
 

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Why is it that I can't relate with any of Bangtan's songs solo or group? does anyone else have the same problem?? like with JH's latest release it's not a tween pop anthem like dyna or Ptd but I can't with the lyrics it's so cringeee I thought when he said he will touch on darker themes in his album he would release more heartfelt personal songs but here JH is back with their "I am so rich I got 13384505 trophies but I don't care I am all art" it sounds so pretentious
it's because there is nothing authentic about their music IMO

they just do whatever concept the company tells them

now this Hope song, just feels like a different idol, feels like some type of Gdragon copy to me, trying to do the "alternative" sound

so suddenly he changed his whole style, or whas this him since the beggining?
it's really hard to know who they are as artists. it all feels forced with them
 
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I am from a fairly conservative family I am not allowed to date and neither is my brother and I am fine with it because a lot of men here manipulate naive girls into marrying them but then they turn out to be A-holes who leave the girl helpless and scarred once they find a new lover. There are a lot of predators here and sometimes arranged marriage does end up being the safer option for girls. many of my friends are into kpop and kdramas it's normalized now even before kpop was popular girls would fawn over local male actors and musicians all the time.
I saw that happen to friends and they were heartbroken. Going through bad relationships makes people jaded. The good people stop trusting anyone and the bad ones keep hurting more people. I didn't miss a lot not dating and I'm grateful I missed out.
 

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Tae's in any man's arms who has some money. His sexuality is moneysexual. Willing to pay? He will be sexual. I got into shipping taek00k and look back with embarrassment. They barely talk and videos are manipulated to look like more is happening. It's fake. Army could have boyfriends or girlfriends, friends, careers etc and spend time going over videos looking for proof.
I don’t think those male models had a lot of money…. He just a hoe.
 

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A huge chunk of the fans are shippers and they are usually the most obsessed analysing and follwing everything to see if their ship is true. I myself only got interested in Bt$ because of the ships, like literally. It was during a period of my life where things were tough and I needed distraction. Never liked the music and before this i had listened to kpop songs casually. Once they wake up from their delusions they will get bored and leave. Even if something did happen between the ship how can they look at teapot or Jimbo and think that those dudes are remotely faithful to anything? Bruuh…Teapot in the arms of a new man every time.
its true, shipping is main reason they become popular

maknae line ships like TAek00k and Jik00k, most fans are still holding on because of that imo

but it's just funny that after all these years shippers are still going....when these guys are obviously not even that close anymore

Veee out there flirting with everybody and JK obviously living a different life.
at some point you neeed to accept the ship is not real and move on
 

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its true, shipping is main reason they become popular

maknae line ships like TAek00k and Jik00k, most fans are still holding on because of that imo

but it's just funny that after all these years shippers are still going....when these guys are obviously not even that close anymore

Veee out there flirting with everybody and JK obviously living a different life.
at some point you neeed to accept the ship is not real and move on
Even when they did interact the relationship between all of them seemed toxic to say the least. Like and on- off type of thing with extreme levels of toxicity. Much like other busted kpop groups.
 

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Hi again - respectfully. I have lived in India. And the Hindu girls date freely. It's not just the westernized ones. Arranged marriages are still pretty popular, but it's usually only when the girl and guy actually like each other. The families spend a lot of time together and ultimately let the couple decide if they want to tie the knot. The result is that it's not just two people in love spending their lives together, but two families who get along and enjoy spending time with each other. Now with muslims, it's different. They are not allowed to date.
I don't know what it's like in India but a lot of my Muslim girl friends have male friends and the families don't mind. Dating isn't common but families allow girls to hang out with their Fiances to get to know them better before marriage but again it depends on where you live. Most cases of honor killings and child marriages happen in communities where literacy rates are low and things are rapidly changing feminism is becoming more and more popular and more women are coming out to speak against the patriarchal culture that oppresses women.
 
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